The time I was under a toilet…

For weeks the kids’ toilet had a minor leak. Finally, I had enough. I was tired of it. I got down under the toilet to replace the pipe that goes from the toilet to the wall.

Here’s the problem. The kids’ vanity was right up against the toilet. So, imagine me wedged in between there with very little room to get a good angle. I couldn’t get it. No matter how hard I would turn the wrench it wouldn’t budge.

Enter kids. About this time the kids see an opportunity to come and join me, scratch that, jump on me. So there I was, all balled up in the most uncomfortable position, the kids were jumping on me, and it appeared the toilet was winning.

It was then, I gritted my teeth, said something I won’t repeat, and just yanked on it as hard as I could. Well, the pipe came out….but not like it was supposed to. I literally ripped the pipe out of the wall.

That’s when I learned something very important. Whenever doing work like that you should always start by turning off the water to the house.

Water was gushing everywhere. All over the place. I ran outside where I frantically searched for main shut up….finally it was over.

Here’s the deal, one of the greatest markers of the Holy Spirit is patience. I wish I would have demonstrated a little more patience in that moment.

In our fast-paced world, there is no need for patience. Think about it. Think about all the things that have made the world move faster now than it was 10–20 years ago. It’s insane.

In our world we often elevate things like efficiency over patience. But remember things like efficiency, organization, and speed are not fruits of the spirit. Patience is. But, in our fast paced world it feels like patience isn’t even needed. My argument is, that’s why patience is such a good marker for the Holy Spirit.

Patience is hard because patience requires you to look in the mirror. Our addiction to getting things done causes us to just judge all the people that are slowing us down. Patience requires us to see beyond the project and actually see the people. To see the waiter that’s struggling because they are understaffed. To see the contractor that’s behind because he can’t find good help. To see the person behind the wheel driving 45 in the fast lane because they just got terrible news and their mind is elsewhere.

You see, Jesus followers elevate people over the projects. That’s why patience is so important.

Don’t get blinded by the project and miss the people.

Today, when that person is driving slow or your order is taking forever, take inventory. How are you handling those moments? Are you displaying patience or is something else coming from you altogether?




I'm an enneagram 7w8 with a passion to help people let go of religion and rediscover Jesus! My motto in life is, have fun while loving people!

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